They say that you only have one great love in your life.
When you’re young it's hard to distinguish love from lust. As our bodies get
taller and our hormones get wilder, finding ‘the one’ and knowing when you are
in love can be very difficult.
Sex and the City is a tv show that we all know and adore and
it can be very exciting when we get together with our girlfriends to decide who
is the “Carrie” or the “Samantha” of the group. Luckily for the four of us
there was no argument when it came to figuring out who each of us were. In
fact, the four of us watch the episodes and can see ourselves in their Manolo
Blahniks.
Everyone has their own unique experience with this bitter
sweet part of life. Learning to love and be loved. Our “Charlotte” has been in
a committed relationship for three years, “Carrie” has been from one love to
another, “Miranda” has been struggling to get over ‘the one that got away’ and
“Samantha” has never been in love. These are our real and honest accounts of
young relationships.
I am a hopeful romantic although I'm not sure I've ever been in love. My high school boyfriend broke up with me because I was going into Year 12 and he was leaving school, he thought it would be too hard for us to see each other… Yep. I was so upset about it, little 16 year old me. One of my good friends at the time gave me some advice I have never forgotten, she said "You need to remember your self worth, you deserve someone who makes the effort for you".
From then on I have completely been actively dating with a
new love interest every two or so weeks. BIG emphasis on the interest. I meet
someone, text my girlfriends: "Omg I just met the CUTEST guy in the Nike
store and he was totally flirting with me, he asked me what my post code
was", Facebook and Instagram stalk based on limited information e.g Name
tag (this process can take up to 3-5 business days and express services require
help from a friend), Find out he's head over heels for his girlfriend of 3
years, Next. I am guilty of being the girl at brunch that gets asked "Soo…
how's it going with Tom?" "Oh that's old news, he left me on seen.
I'm talking to Ben now".
Which brings me to the rules, yes, rules and back to the
advice. I developed a set of my own dating game rules that would help sift
through the guys that don’t make an effort to be with me, bye Felicia. I'd also
just like to point out that these are the rules that I date by, verified by my
closest girlfriends that receive all my screenshotted conversations. You do not
have to follow these rules, you do you boo.
RULE #1
Until you're married, he messages first.
RULE #2
The first conversation is the most important. There's a
mindful 3 hour gap between your replies, a draft message has been sent to all 3
of your group chats for pre-sending approval, the message is short, fun and
flirty with NO EMOJIS.
RULE #3
If you get left on seen, you're done.
RULE #4
Don't force the conversation to last longer. If he replies
"Haha yeah", that's the end of the conversation. Don't reply to
something that doesn't absolutely need a reply, if he wants to talk to you he
will double text.
RULE #5
If he wants to see you, he will. If he doesn't at least
suggest a coffee date, he's just not that into you.
But, what's the point of having rules if you don't break
them sometimes?
So, I may not have found The One for me yet but I'm only
young and I personally feel no pressure at all. With each new love interest
comes new experiences and stories. As fun as the dating game is, the greatest
love in my life comes from my friends and family. They are the people that
stick around through Tom, Ben, Patrick, Adam, Sam, Jack, Dan, Jason, Bob, Matt,
you get the point. "Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just
people to have fun with." - Carrie Bradshaw
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